How to Help a Friend Who Has Lost a Family Member

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How to Help a Friend Who Has Lost a Family Member

Remember-those-days-copyPrayer is such a powerful force. We underestimate it so much. Prayer can move mountains if only we would let it. If only you would realize just how powerful prayer can be, you would never feel hopeless.

I talk and ask the angels to help; I ask angels to intercede but I don’t pray to them. I pray only to God. Prayer is direct communication with God.

No one ever prays alone. When you pray to God there is a multitude of angels of prayer there, praying with you, regardless of your religious faith or how you are behaving. They are there enhancing your prayer, interceding on your behalf and imploring God to grant your prayer. Every time you pray, even if it is only one word, the angels of prayer are like a never-ending stream, flowing at tremendous speed to Heaven with your prayers.


How to Help a Friend Who Has Lost a Family Member

Communicate your support. Social support from family and friends is crucial to helping someone deal with the death of a loved one. Once you find out that your friend lost a loved one, you can let your friend know that you are there for her.

  • Make sure you verbalize your condolences. You can say something like, “I am so sorry for your loss.”
  • You can start by saying that you are available if she needs to talk with you or spend time with you. You can say something like, “I know this is a difficult time for you and I just want you to know that I am here for you. Is there any way I can help?”
  • Offer to help your friend with any practical tasks. During this time, your friend may have to help cover costs of the funeral, unpaid bills, clean out her loved one’s home, go through items, and deal with other financial and legal concerns. You can offer your help and support if you feel comfortable.

Bring your friend food. Practical help is often lost on friends of the bereaved. However, many people who have lost loved ones are consumed with grief. A great way to help your friend in this time is to make a home cooked meal, or pick up her favorite meal, and deliver it to her. This is a common gesture (depending on your culture) that can produce feelings of being supported, which is important in helping individuals cope with grief.

  • Good food ideas are: home-made lasagna, a casserole, banana bread, and soup.
  • Try to prepare dishes that can be put in the microwave or oven easily.

Send a gift to your friend and friend’s family. Gifts can be seen as an act of compassion; these gestures can provide a great sense of comfort to those who are grieving.  Try to avoid giving your friend any gift that will remind her of her loved one that passed away.

  • Some examples of appropriate gifts might include flowers, an online tribute with TrulyApart,  or a card. It is also sometimes helpful to provide the family with a cash donation for funeral costs.



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